Sunday, January 08, 2023
It's the beginning of a new year. A fresh start.
That means you've probably been thinking about your New Year Resolutions and the goals you are supposed to be setting.
But you've also probably asked yourself if it's really worth going through all that work? You've done it every year and almost every year you've thrown in the towel by February.
But what if there was a better system?
A better way of setting goals. A system that would help you to really discover and understand your 'why,' or your purpose behind each goal. A system that would help you to create a plan that you could stick to and achieve your goals. A system that would take that plan and break it down into monthly, weekly, and even daily tasks that will keep you on track. And most importantly, a system that implements daily accountability so that all the urgent tasks you are continually dealing with don't completely overshadow the important things that will help you achieve your goals.
Well, that system does exist, and I've had the opportunity to teach and implement it successfully with many people (www.CoachHeggie.com/Goals).
But that's not what I'm going to talk about today, because there's something even more important that we need to talk about if you really want to achieve your goals and live the future of your dreams.
The hard part is not setting your goals. It's not even the work you have to do to achieve your goals. The hard part is becoming the person who can achieve those goals.
If I tell you exactly what you need to do to achieve your goals, you're not going to do it until you become the person who can do those things.
A while ago I had to drop my truck off at the mechanic's shop and needed someone to pick me up and give me a ride home. My wife and older kids were all tied up with other obligations. I looked at my 11-year-old son and told him to jump in the Yukon and follow me to the shop. He was all ready to give it a try, so I had to break it to him that I was joking. Even if he was willing to give it a try, he's never driven before and doesn't know how to. He has not yet become the person who can do that thing.
Just as my son needs to become the person who has the skill and ability to drive before he can do it, you must become the person who can do the things necessary for you to achieve your goals if you want to make them a reality.
But you need to understand that I'm not telling you that you shouldn't set goals and work towards them until you can become the person who can do "the thing." Much of what it will take to become that person is done by going through the process of trying to achieve them. When my son is old enough to drive, he won't be able to become a great driver without driving.
When you set your goals and follow your plan to achieve them, you'll run into problems. You'll make mistakes. You'll have some failures. The lessons learned from these failures are what will help you to become the person who can achieve the goal.
You need to learn from your failures. A failure along the way doesn't mean that you should quit.
I've seen so many different situations where someone worked on something for 10 minutes, or 10 hours, or even 10 months and when they didn't get the results they wanted, they said "it didn't work, I failed."
My advice to them is to remember that all work works! I've heard the analogy that work is like a two-sided coin. There's the side that you are working on and then there's the side that's working on you.
When you're working on something and it doesn't seem to be working, that's when it's doing the best work on you.
I was a boxer when I was young. I remember going through a growth spurt that bumped me up to a higher weight class which had more experienced and talented fighters. It was a difficult transition, but I ended up having some great fights. There were some wins and there were some losses. But what happened during that journey, is that I became a contender in that new weight class. Out of necessity, my defense improved a lot. I became a much different and better fighter than I was in the lighter weight class. At the times that I felt like things weren't working for me because I was literally getting beat up, what I didn't understand indre the moment was that it was making me a better all-round fighter as both my defense and offense improved.
As early as February people begin to give up on their new year resolutions. They quit and lose any momentum they had. They feel like things aren't working that will help them achieve their goals. But I'm telling you, if you're doing the work and following your plan and it feels like things are not working, it's working. It may not be working for you, but it's working on you.
This means that you will have to be ok stepping out of your comfort zone at times. When it seems like things are not working for you, it can feel uncomfortable pushing forward. There's a reason that one of my Mindset Questions has you identify something every day that will make you step out of your comfort zone. The more you step out of your comfort zone, the more confidence you have. The more it works on you, the more you will become the person who can do the thing repeatedly. Then it doesn't matter what happens in your external environment and things change because you've become the person who can do the thing.
Your life and experiences have made you a different person than you were a year ago. In a year from now, you are going to be a different person than you are today.
When you look out a year from now, who do you want to be?
Who do you have to become to be able to achieve the goals you have for yourself?
My challenge for you is to Be Bold!
Do the work. Set big goals and create a plan. Immediately go to work to become the person who can achieve those goals. Create that identity and become that person.
In 12 months, 5 years, 10 years, you're going to become someone. The question is, who are you going to become? Will you become the person who can achieve your biggest goals and dreams?
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